Life After IML - January 2006

John prepared to hit someone's butt with a leather paddle
It was someone's birthday on the pub crawl. So out came the birthday paddle.
Photo credit: Steve Johnson

I hope you all had a happy holiday and peaceful New Year. I had an early Christmas present, as one of my interviews was published in an academic journal! My thanks go to Eric Chaline, who conducted the interview and made me sound smart. The article appears in the Lesbian and Gay Psychology Review Volume 6 no. 3, (Nov 2005). It's a special issue focusing on Contemporary Perspectives on Sadomasochism (S/M) and includes contributions from Dr Peggy Kleinplatz and Dr Charles Moser. To purchase a copy of the whole special issue please click here.

Last November I flew to Kansas City, Missouri, to take part in a pub crawl to raise money for the Kansas City Anti-Violence Project (KCAVP), organised by Kansas City Leather University. At first glance it might seem odd that a group of kinky leather folk who teach SM skills might want to raise money for an ANTI-violence project. However, although SM might use some activities which look violent to the outsider, there is a huge difference between SM (which is consensual and everyone respects the needs, desires and limits of others) and abuse, (which is unconsensual and limits are ignored). If you are unsure of the difference please click here.

The KCAVP board members were present on the pub crawl and Doug Riley, the Executive Director, kindly agreed to be interviewed for this column.

John and a friend share a hug
In every pub crawl there's an "I really love you, you're my best friend" moment.
Photo credit: Steve Johnson

For more information contact:
PO Box 411211, Kansas City, MO 64141-1211, USA

Email: info (at)
Phone: 816 561 0550 (from within USA)

KCAVP is part of a network of anti-violence projects across America and Canada.
To find your nearest programme please go to

Have fun, look after yourselves and the people you play with.

Best wishes,

John Pendal
International Mr Leather 2003

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