"HARNESS" column for Beefyboyz.com - July 2003

My First Night in a Leather Bar - Part 1

My first night in a leather bar was almost a disaster. I knew that I was attracted to the leather scene but when I got there I was scared and bewildered by the clothes and body language of the leathermen in the bar. I ordered a drink but don't think I finished it before nerves got the better of me and I tried to leave. Fortunately someone grabbed me and asked what was wrong. I explained that I didn't know what I was doing there, didn't know how to dress or act and felt extremely foolish. He marched me back into the bar, adjusted my posture, gave me a few bits of advice and then stepped back to see what would happen. (And that's another article ...)

What follows is the advice I was given that night, along with a few other observations I've picked up along the way. It's not meant to be "the definitive guide of how you should act in a leather bar". In fact, if you feel comfortable on the leather scene and have no problem making friends then move right along - this month's column isn't for you. But if you're new to the leather scene or feel invisible in bars, you may like to try some of the following suggestions:

I hope that helps. Next month: My first night in a leather bar - part 2.

John Pendal
International Mr Leather 2003

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