"HARNESS" column for Beefyboyz.com - March 2004

What's the difference between a slave and a bottom?

"I met a hot Top in a leather bar and offered to be his slave for the night. He replied: 'Don't you mean bottom?' What's the difference?"

There are no hard and fast rules for the titles we give each other during leather play. If you meet someone who is happy to call you "slave" for the night there is nothing wrong with that. However, if you haven't found the right partner yet then there are some generally understood definitions on the leather scene which might help you while you are cruising:

There is no value attached to these titles: it is no better to be a MASTER than a DADDY, or a TOP than a BOY. The key thing is to understand what you are, describe yourself honestly and try to find someone who is looking for what you have to offer. That way you are not leading someone on by claiming to be something you're not - and hopefully you'll have more successful sex as a result!

Have fun, and look after yourselves and the people you play with.

John Pendal
International Mr Leather 2003

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