"HARNESS" column - September 2005

Emotional Pitfalls in SM

SM play doesn't just come with physical risks, there are some emotional pitfalls to watch out for as well. Here are just three to be aware of:

As consensual players we need to look out for one another. SM play can dredge up deep feelings or long-forgotten memories. Make sure that you don't do SM play while you are angry, jealous or hold negative feelings towards the other people in the scene. It's always worth checking in with each other a few days after playing. Someone may well leave with a smile on their face at the time, but then have other feelings or things they need to discuss at a later date.

Have fun, look after yourselves and the people you play with.

John Pendal
International Mr Leather 2003

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